How To Boost Your Self esteem And Confidence: 5 Practical Tips
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- Nov 29, 2016
- 3 min read
Do you have that inner confidence in your own abilities? Well, you can call that self-esteem. How we value ourselves, our self-perception on who we are and the beliefs we have on what we can achieve is all self-esteem.
Self-esteem is not about how other people see us, but others perception of us can affect it. Being skillful or not skillful at something is not evidence of very high or low self-esteem. It is possible to find someone who is nearly perfect at everything the do but have a very low self-esteem.
Low self esteem occurs especially among youths and mostly while we are in school. This is the time they are not strong enough to brush off other people's opinion about them. The individual effect is that the little voice in our head starts telling us we are not good enough causing walking through life filled with fear and anxiety.
How do you boost your self-esteem to ensure you enjoy life to the maximum? Here is how;
1. Stop Comparing yourself to others It's normal to compare yourself to your friends or people around. The thought that they might be better than you creates some fear in you. With this kind of doubt, it is hard to try anything else leave alone what your friend is good at. An important thing you need to realize is that everyone is unique. So, if your friend is good at playing the guitar, what are you good at?
2. Conduct a Positive Self-Talk Self-talk has a great impact on how we see ourselves and see things around us. If you keep thinking that you are not good looking, you will end up believing it over time. I remember when in high school, I used to perform poorly in mathematics, but I always told myself that maths is a real subject that I loved. On my final exams, I did quite well on the subject, more that I or my teachers expected.
Why did I do so well? Because after months of telling myself I love the subject, I ended up loving it hence practicing more. If you hold a positive talk with yourself, you will start perceiving everything in a different angle.
3. Don’t try too hard to impress It's reasonable to want to be perfect at everything you do or impress everyone. Well, this is not possible since we live in an imperfect world. If you make a mistake or meet a few people who are hard to impress, don’t beat yourself about it. Remember the many things you have done flawlessly and the many people who would “kill” to be you or where you are.
4. Do what you Enjoy By doing things that you enjoy, the chances are that you will be filled with positive thoughts. Positive thoughts boost your self-esteem!
5. Surround yourself with positive people Surrounding yourself with people who always think lowly of you, they might end up affecting how you see yourself. Avoid such [people and be around individuals who appreciate you just the way you are.
Focusing on the small positive things in life is a great way of improving your self-esteem. Stay away from toxic people. If any of the tips above do not work, and you might consider seeing a counselor and that is ok too.
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